Date: 2018-02-23 14:32
This post was extremely helpful. The man I have been seeing for over a year is a *censored* and I realised that a few months ago. He checks of most of the boxes, but yet there are some big ones he hasn 8767 t. For example, he 8767 s introduced me to his friends and family without hesitation. But he doesn 8767 t like titles, he is hot and cold with his moods, his ADHD doesn 8767 t help. I left my ex to be with him because it was so hard not to be with him. At this point I don 8767 t regret being with him, but it is difficult when things just seem to stop or he disappears, and I 8767 m left feeling confused. I try so hard not to expect anything of him, but he 8767 s the only one that has really been around, and has protected me. He agrees he is a *censored*, and I 8767 m the complete opposite when it comes to him. Its getting more difficult now, and I don 8767 t know what to do. Do you ever just get that feeling that there is something that is not near finished yet? I 8767 ve told him I 8767 m open to talking about anything, and he said he doesn 8767 t want to talk about things. Three months ago he was talking about making a bigger step so I invited him as my plus 6 for my dads wedding. Up until a week before everything was fine, and then he disappeared for over two months. Then on my first girls night out in a long time I saw him again drinking alone. My friend confronted him saying he needs to give my mind a rest and just get some balls and be honest with me. He talked to me later and apologised and told me how he should have told me it was too big a step. I told him I understand that but I just wish I wasn 8767 t made a fool of. He kept sending me drinks all night until I went over and said thank you for the drinks, and things went back on. We are both trying to hold back and take it slower, but its difficult when so many people, even his friends, say we were made for each other because of how open we are around each other. Before the new year he said we would talk about making things official and he would call me his girlfriend. But this talk has been getting put off for three weeks now. I want this to happen. I just hope he realises I wont wait around forever. During the two months I had a miscarriage, he doesn 8767 t know about that and I don 8767 t want him to know. Him knowing will just turn serious again and might make him bolt. But that made me realise how serious seeing a *censored* is, and how much of a toll it can take, especially when you go through something like that alone. If anyone has any advice please don 8767 t hesitate. Things just go so well when we are together, but I think it is when we are apart he realises and it freaks him out.
Ok, I have a question. I 8767 ll be as to the point as possible. I 8767 ve been seeing a guy for the last 8 months. He calls every day bothers him if I don 8767 t return calls. If i call and leave him a message he calls back soon. We have gone out to dinner (not fancy he doesn 8767 t have a lot of money, which is ok) gone to a local place to dance, gone to his house and he has fixed dinner and we have watched movies, gone to flea market, etc. We talk pretty easily not perfectly at ease. I 8767 m not ready to jump into anything big right happy with taking time to get to know someone. He has taken me to meet his sister and some of his family. The odd thing? I don 8767 t feel any 8775 vibes 8776 from him as far as really liking me. He 8767 s very nice. He is also someone that totally avoids any type of confrontation and avoids disagreements, even though just small things need to be discussed. Just small things. He says he would rather 8775 go around it 8776 than deal with it, because people get hurt and he doesn 8767 t want to explain himself twice. I like things to be discussed, settled, and forgotten about. Like adults. But I digress. Though we usually spend Friday and Sunday evenings together he is NEVER affectionate towards me. Doesn 8767 t hug me, doesn 8767 t hold my hand, doesn 8767 t put his arm around me..never looks at me with 8775 feeling 8776 Not mean, not angry, just seems 8775 happily indifferent. 8776 He said one time that he 8775 doesn 8767 t know how fast to go 8776 to which I replied that I 8767 m in no hurry and don 8767 t have a problem taking time. But, even teenagers, when they 8775 like 8776 each other, hug, hold hands, etc. I 8767 m not looking for a giddy 8775 *censored* 8776 behavior..just some sign that there is 8775 something 8776 there. When he brings me home from a date, he walks me to the door (even when I go to his house for movies, etc., he comes to get me and takes me back home) He briefly hugs me and gives me a 8775 hen peck, 8776 and that 8767 s literally it. I 8767 m NOT looking for sex or anything right you don 8767 t have to be head over heels in love to just show something, do you? I read stuff that says 8775 you 8767 ll KNOW. 8776 He will want to touch hands, your . He doesn 8767 t touch ANYTHING. We slow while we are dancing, he talks about working on his house. There is to it at all. I would never even consider opening up any 8775 feelings 8776 towards him when he behaves like this. Right now, my emotions are shut down and I don 8767 t feel anything because I don 8767 t get anything from him. I think he might be maybe there is just nothing. But I would like to know if he cares at all, or if I 8767 m just 8775 friend/love match 8776 substitute because he 8767 s bored. He just moved back to our area last May after being gone for 85 years. He does say he 8767 s reconnected with guys he knew when he played football in high *censored* from around here. He has also said there are 8775 girls 8776 that he knew from *censored* he would like to reconnect with. He said 8775 Not to flirt with them or anything, just to talk to those he used to know. Comments? Should I ask him if he feels anything? Should I back out of this? What?